Where have all the ladies gone? Not the chicks, the grown girls, the bad b’s-I know all of them abound in droves, but where are the ladies? In Great Britain a lady is the wife of a knight, baronet, member of the peerage, or one having the courtesy title of lord and used as a courtesy title for the daughter of a duke, marquess, or earl. Thus a lady is one of superior social position with refinement and gentle manners, as defined by Webster’s. Here, in the states, I believe the term is most often focused on “with refinement and gentle manners.” When your mom admonished you to act like a lady she meant as my mom more aptly put it “act like you have some couth.” And thus we have come to the purpose of today’s blog.
I will admit that I am as guilty of watching “reality” t.v. as anyone else. I am ashamedly hooked on the Real Housewives franchise but also get in my doses of the Sports Wives. And perhaps my pervasive viewing of such has tainted my point of view. This is what I would like to believe, but sadly I know that is not correct. I will admit that these shows and others like them are making a bad situation worse.
What is the situation you ask? Well, apparently it has become unpopular to be a lady -a female who is self-respecting at all times, holds herself and others to standards of behavior, and who does not behave in belittling ways. NO! It is far more appealing to “throw down” at the first sign of insult- either perceived or real, to throw drinks in people’s faces (a favorite), and to curse and act a fool in public.
If you disagree with me that the phenomenon is growing , I challenge you to prove that. It appears that we are feeding our brains is a steady diet of this is how women behave and only those with the strongest of constitutions are able to separate reality from “reality.” You see, the truth is these people are at least clowning for a reason- a paycheck. The “ladies” who go into the streets copying such behavior are doing it for free.
Well, I’ll tell you this I watch the shows, but I don’t drink the Kool-Aid. I am teaching my daughter how to behave as a lady and letting her see for herself how foolish such behavior looks when viewed by others. We have to reclaim our girls and young ladies. They are our gems and jewels. The need to understand what is appropriate attire and behavior. They need to learn from us (adult men and women) that the person they should respect most in life is themselves. They should also know that under no circumstances should they allow others to disrespect them.
Our culture is failing them. The “ladies” on these shows get voted off as “boring.” “Who wants to see them?” Foolery garners high ratings and spin offs.
I’ll tell you this. For me it is not worth it. I am the finest quality diamond and so is my daughter. We will carry ourselves as such and you will respect us as such. Where are the rest of my ladies? Please stand up.