A Dream Is Unfulfilled Without Action


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I am a writer. There, I said it. I dream of being not just a published writer, but a famous writer.

When I’m stressed, upset, or just need to “get away from it all” I do one of two things- I read or I write. I write to express my deepest feelings- those I’m too shy, or fearful, or unsure of to express aloud.  I write to give praise. I write to air grievances. I write for entertainment, mine and others.

I began this blog 6 years ago (WAIT! Has it really been THAT long?!) because I wanted to write and I wanted spread love through a blog that shared positive thoughts.  I am not hip enough to be a fashion blogger, and quite frankly dishing on celebrities is not my calling or desire.

Then guess what happened?  You already know right?  Life happened.  I’ve changed location, marital status, and a host of other things during the lifetime of this blog.  You know what else happened? I stopped writing. And my dream became more deferred. I’m rusty now. My written “voice” is not as sharp as it was. I have to resharpen my tools.

Earlier today I had a conversation with my husband. We discussed goals and plans for the future. As a part of the discussion I shared that writing is my true dream and passion. If I could have my druthers writing is what I would do. Then, he did it. That thing.  Yup, he dropped the bomb. What you need to know is that my husband is related to a world renown, highly acclaimed author.  I mean, one whose name is known by EVERYONE. So what did he do? How did he drop the bomb? He quoted her!!! He said “in the words of my cousin ‘writers write.’ ”  Sonic boom. I can ‘t argue with that, especially knowing who he’s quoting.

So here I am. I’m really, really back. Back with regularity. Back to posting. Back to inspiring (hopefully). Back to writing. Because a dream is just a dream until you apply action to it. Action makes the dream a goal. Dream your dreams. Then define the goals and go get ’em. It’s never too late. Not for me and certainly not for you. Let’s go get em.  As for me, I’ll continue to do the write thing.

Spread Love,

Peace and Blessings



Miles To Go Before I Sleep

Stopping By Woods On a Snowy Evening – Robert Frost

Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there is some mistake.
The only other sound’s the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.

A few days ago I stopped to take inventory.  I took a look at all of the goals that I have yet to achieve and had to have a little heart to heart with myself.   Sometimes we have to do an honest assessment and within that I have to admit that I am not in my twenties with “my whole life ahead of me.”  The truth of the matter is I have already lived about half of life.  That being said, I have a LOOONG laundry of things on my To Do list and I have every intent upon accomplishing them.  So what is the plan?

Well obviously I have to become less intimately acquainted with procrastination and more closely associated with focus.  Determination and I need to become much better friends.  Positive self-image and knowledge of self are about to be in bed with me nightly.

Here’s the point.  It is never too late to take a moment to reassess and refocus.  The dreams we hold are attainable or God wouldn’t give them to us.  If the idea is there you can do it.  It is just a matter of doing the work to put together the ideas, do the research, and then as they say “let the magic happen.”  Last week I was hit with several pieces of disappointing news on the same day.  While I could have taken the opportunity to host a small pity party, I realized, instead, that I was being afforded the gift of additional time.  More time to work on what I’m called to do and not what I should do.  Gifts should not go unused or to waste.  Thus I told myself  “Tee it’s time to get your act together. You need to do some more research and then do what you need to do to make your dream happen.”  You see these items shall be accomplished.

“But I’m getting old” is not a proper response.  Age is a function of the mind.  I do not know what my lifespan is, but I know that I have less time than a twenty year old.  So,  I trudge forth with determination and renewed energy to get it all in because the fact of the matter is “I have promises (to myself) to keep and miles to go before I sleep… and miles to go before I sleep.”

Spread love…peace and blessings.

The Road Less Traveled By

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by”    Robert Frost

I took the one less traveled by.  I took the one less traveled by.   “The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost is one of the most famous poems in american literary history.  Even if you don’t know the poem in its entirety you know the tag “I took the one less traveled.”  So famous is the tag that many believe that is the name of the poem.  While it sounds glamorous to say,  traveling this road is not for the fainthearted.  The road less traveled is an adventure into the unknown.  The rewards however, though unknown, are often greater.

Taking the road less traveled is a daunting task.  It is not worn smooth.  To make your way along takes some effort.  Many would turn back.  There is debris along the way combined with low hanging branches.  You may fall down.  You may get scratched and bruised.  Many will not understand why you didn’t “just take the easy route.”  They really don’t understand why you continue along the way though hurt.

For those who take the road less traveled by, it is not necessarily a choice.  It is a way of life .  They have never taken the easy route.  They don’t exactly know why it is so.  I believe they are wired to be that way.  Traveling this road requires bravery.  Not the slaying dragons type of bravery but bravery to stand up to the doubt, questions, accusations, taunting thrown your way by those walking on the safe path.  They don’t necessarily mean any harm, but they are wired the “normal” way.  They believe why do something the hard way when the easy path has already been worn?  Life, for them, is not necessarily about the journey.  It is about getting to the end.  There is no right or wrong road.  It just depends on how you are wired.

Most entrepreneurs and certainly ALL inventors take the road less traveled by.  One must be willing to endure a great deal of scrutiny to come up with something new- either business or product idea.  Some people think they are entrepreneurs if they own a franchise or their own, for example, Mary Kay business.  While this is most certainly an admirable undertaking, I’m speaking about not the reps but Mary Kay Ash  herself or the inventor of the Flowbee for the purposes of this discussion.

Most entertainers are taking the road less traveled.  For as many success stories as you see, do you understand how many others lie broken and beaten on the side of the road- fallen victim to sacrificing everything to pursue their dream?  The same can be said of athletes. Sometimes it is not so global of an undertaking but more of the small details.  The high school graduate who is leaving home to go hundreds of miles way to become educated in a city where no family resides while all of his/her friends remain local is an example.  The person who is willing to travel to foreign lands to work because they have a burning desire to see the world that can not be quenched is another.  The person who gets a college or even more advanced education but chooses to do grassroots work in the community while their counterparts pursue careers with six figure incomes is a third.  All of these people are making their way along the road less traveled by- not always because they want to but because they have to.  It is part of their DNA.

So I say to the weary traveler as you rest on the side of the path.  Rest, but don’t stop pressing.  Don’t let the “others” get you down.  They don’t and won’t understand you.  That’s okay.  Just BE you.  And if the path you are walking dead ends or gets too rough, don’t fret.  There is another fork up ahead and another road less traveled by.  Press on warrior.

Feel The Fire

A couple of friends and I are working on a new project and I am literally on fire.  I can not wait to get it off  the ground.  I am psyched about the potential for success.  I am awakened with ideas and go to sleep thinking of more.  Which led to me to thinking about something.   When are we operating at our very best?  My answer? When we are on fire for something.

Think about it.  A lot of times the best times in a relationship are in the early stages.  Both parties are filled with the promise of what the relationship has to offer.  They work  very hard to put forth their best foot.  They place that person and their needs above many others- sometimes even themselves.

When we start a new job we are on fire with passion.  We put forth our best effort.  We desire to impress all of those with whom we work.  We want our managers to feel pleased about their decision to hire us and we want to make them look good.  When we start our own business we are really churning on all cylinders.  We are willing to put in whatever amount of time and energy is required to make our venture a success.  After all,  this is OUR thing and we wish to prove that there is no one better to bet on than ourselves.

So what happens? How do we lose the passion that we have initially?  I propose that we let the fire go out.  While it is true that it is difficult to keep a fire stoked at the same level indefinitely, we have to continuously  search for new kindle to keep it going.

Within a relationship, the kindle may be a new hobby for the two of you to embark on together, a trip you are planning, exercising together or any number of things.  The point is you have to find something that makes you feel the initial spark you once felt.  It can be done and with sustained effort is not that difficult.

In the workplace, suggest a new method, process or project.  More than likely you will be asked to lead that initiative which should successfully relight your fire for a few.  With your own business, it is easy to become bogged down and discouraged especially if things are not going quite as planned.  This new venture/project  has been very enlightening for me.  Not only am I super- excited about the new project but have seen ways to incorporate it into the A Cup of Cheer brand as well.  Thus one pilot has lit the flame on two separate eyes.

These are my thoughts.  You may have other suggestions and I encourage you to leave them.  I, and others, would love to read them. Most importantly,  I encourage you feel the fire.  Life is glorious when we are doing what makes us happy and being rewarded in the process.