Well it’s that time- albeit a little delayed this year. Every year I take time to review my life. This generally takes place on New Year’s Day and my birthday(7/1). Well, we are officially 15 days past my birthday. Life’s circumstances delayed me putting pen to paper or fingers to keys, as it were, this year but I definitely put in the time for reflection. So, at the ripe young age of 47 here’s what I’ve learned so far. Some lessons came a while ago while some are very recent. Regardless of the timing, they are things I now hold as true.
1. I can’t change anyone but myself. While this is definitely true, what is even more true is that though I will not ask anyone to change who they are for me I am firm in what is not acceptable behavior for/toward me. You don’t have to change, but I don’t have to tolerate it either!
2. Most people are good at heart. The more you accept that, the more people will show you how good they really are. (another way of stating that most people live up to your expectations)
3. Age is definitely a state of mind. I’m 47 but still 25 in my mind. I think constantly relating to my inner child helps me look younger.
4. You have to take care of your mind, body, and soul. You can amass money and for some that is the ultimate goal. But those funds will not keep you out of the doctor’s office, off of medication and off of the operating table.
5. You can’t choose your family, but often times when the rubber meets the road you will find that they are truly there for you.
6. You really do have to power to change your life simply based on what you think. The Law of Attraction is real. If you don’t believe me, try some of the principles yourself and prove me wrong. I’ll wait; you won’t. 😉
7. Some things have changed from the old days but I don’t HAVE to change with them if the change is not for the best. This deserves its own blog as it cannot be summarized in a sentence or two.
8. You can’t make me hate you, cause I won’t! Hate is not in my vocabulary especially in reference to another person. We all have God within us. If I recognize the God in you it is impossible for me to hate you. The God in me can’t hate itself. I choose to see you for your best, even when you display your worst.
9. When you spread love it comes back to you magnified. Most of you know this is a principal that I live by. Spread love.
10. Tell people you love them; often!
11. Don’t force people to jump through hoops to prove their love for you. It’s unnecessary, tiring, and leads to resentment.
12. Be willing to see your own faults and learn from your mistakes. No one is perfect and that includes you. It’s ok. Cut yourself some slack. No one expects you to be perfect.
13. Life goes on. Unless you die, you get the opportunity to live another day. That is a gift. Try as much as possible to live in the present and see the present for the gift that it is.
14. Your time and attention are two of the greatest gifts you can give a person. Give someone your undivided attention sometimes and see what a difference it makes in your communication.
15. Be willing to see the other person’s point of view. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with it, but by seeing it you will find an understanding.
16. Be willing to admit when you are wrong.
17. Don’t give up.
18. Laugh often – especially at yourself.
19. See your children as the individuals that they are and appreciate your time with them. It will be gone before you know it.
20. When you are surrounded by friends who love, support, and encourage you, you can survive anything. Again, I could write an entire blog around this.
21. You are stronger than you think you. Most of us don’t know what we are capable of until we are presented with a situation. It’s when things are at their worst that we sometimes see what we are really made of.
22. Be willing to laugh (even at yourself) loud and often. There are a lot of serious things that occur in life, but there is a lot of funny stuff as well. Laughter is healing. Never take yourself so seriously that you can’t enjoy a good laugh.